Here’s what you should do if you have a wedding planned for 2020.
If you’re in June or July - let’s get creative.Maybe think a little bit littler, outdoor options and the beauty of adventure, intrigue and intimacy. I see it now.
Take a mini-moon with your favorite photo/video couple and capture hotness! Side note: Jenny and I are truly the funnest (we know that isn’t a word but I still love using it), we don’t judge, we always smile, love a good time, bring music, bring bubbles, bring a large van to off road to the top of the mountain or the emptiness of the desert, and many other valuable skillsets. Let’s create some fun! You aren’t confined to a steel jungle anymore. Let’s be in love and get crazy... after all Love is Crazy!
I mean we already blocked that day off (literally you’re saved on our calendar ;) Make it about you! It’s not about them! It’s just an option. It’s not a bad idea. The moment will be pure, the art more genuine. We’re still throwing a huge celebration later, we like people, we will do that bigger thing with you after all this. We’ll join you raging along side!
If your wedding is in August or after - chill for a bit.Let’s start by understanding Covid-19 and the risk to your guests. The government has consistently stated that we won’t beat the virus this year. All we can do is manage our risk. The odds are that there won’t be a vaccine available in 2020. Polls show that at least 25% of people wouldn’t even get the vaccine if it was available. So, what do you do now? Let’s let facts and science guide us.
You don’t need to cancel your wedding. However, you may need to make some changes.
Solutions and processes are in place to help us make a qualified decision. We have all of May and June to learn what will develop and we’ll have a much better idea of what to expect come June. You have to first evaluate how your state is handling the disease. Downtown New York City isn’t looking so good right now. Minnesota looks great! Our community is making it safer for us already. We have a wedding in the Colorado mountains with 20 people in late July. It’s outdoors and by no means needs to be canceled. We’ll be there! These next few months will be very important for learning more about testing, antibodies and risks.
Keep in mind that staying locked up forever is not the point and never was the point of quarantine. The goal of implementing quarantine was to flatten and elongate the curve so we don’t overwhelm hospitals and medical staff.
Here is your solution and what you should tell your guests:Please don’t attend if you’re not feeling well or someone who is high risk.
The highest risk people include elderly people and those with obesity, hypertension, diabetes and pre-existing conditions. Plan to see these guests at a later date.
It’s not a big deal! Waiting to see some loved ones is going to be amazing when you eventually get to see them. Plus, it’s a great excuse to wear that dress again (or go shopping for a new one!)
Tell people to wear a mask and limit exposure to touch.
You can dance and spread non verbal love with your guests all night long.
Wash your hands and sanitize.
It gives everyone a chance to up their cleanliness game.
p.s. I fell in love with AJR the moment I shot them at the KDWB Star Party at Myth. Jenny and I have seen them every chance we’ve been able to - including at the Armory in Minneapolis and Lollapalooza in Chicago. This ‘Wash Your Hands’ video is fabulous. I need brothers!
Limit the overall number of attendees.
Seek out venues that allow for space and vast outdoors over confined spaces with recycled air. Outside is the safest we can be! We should be rocking outdoor celebrations this summer.
Eliminate buffet setups and include a personalized experience for drink and food consumption. Personal sized items like pizzas, burgers, and heavy hors d’oeuvres can be passed safely.
In the end, life will go on. You have to pick micro-groups to gather. Start with your favorites as this is what we do! Bring a friend into your bubble. People need it. They will love it, but interview them first. It’s always good to get to know the real life of your friends during a pandemic, plus they feel more obligated to be honest now. ;) Groups will pick those they are comfortable with and have limited risk. They’ll maybe even go ‘mask off’ and later ‘mask on’ when Uncle Bob is around.
Since I’m a DJ, I think in song and this song was first to mind. It has some good moments :)
It absolutely stinks not getting to hug grandma. My grandma wants me to be happy. She doesn’t want me to stop my life for her but she also wants to be with me every chance she can get! My fiancé’s grandma doesn’t even care and she would be dancing the night away. To each there own! Live your life! Cheers Marlene - you crazy rock star! She delivered us cookies last week and insisted on a hug. It’s not my fault but I can’t turn down love! There isn’t a right answer. We all have to assess our risk and make the most educated decision that we can. We also have to be proactive and responsible. We won’t beat the virus and we can’t all stay locked up until a vaccine is here. We will continue to live, even if the new normal annoys us from time to time. Our love won’t end. The music can still be turned up to 10 (but mine has an 11). We will smile but sometimes more with our eyes! Note: we should all practice our eye smiles. Show me sympathetic. Show me excitement! Show me crazy!
We have to accept the fact that the disease is real but it also is not the end of the world. The science shows that it is worse than the flu (stop arguing that point) but it is not the pandemic to destroy us all. As my retired doctor dad says, “It’s particularly aggressive to certain people with specific pre-existing conditions and old people like myself,” he laughs. “But for the rest of mankind, it isn’t the end. If it happens to be the end for a young buck like yourself, that would simply be bad luck. You can’t live your life like bad luck is always waiting around the corner. Be smart. Be safe. Enjoy your love and celebrations. Maybe just don’t hug everyone this time. Your wedding will not be the event that brings the hospitals to their knees.”
Thanks dad!